I will be listening very closely and attentively. Though I will NOT be “reading your mind,” I WILL be detecting things underneath your words that your friends and family may not pick up on. This may allow for you to see things differently, and to get feedback you might not get from "just talking about it."

Together we will identify and target culprits, traps, and stuck points that may be increasing and amplifying suffering in your specific circumstances and your specific problem.. This will allow me to give you targeted recommendations that address these directly.

I am used to working with 30 minute appointments, though have made it my mission to bring depth to visits. I make my questions count. I listen deeply. Then, I identify targets for people to choose from that are very linked to the story they told me (which makes it very clear I have been listening).

We will work hard together in session, though I will challenge you not to leave what you learned in the room. As an example, if you went to Lowe’s you wouldn’t pick out a tool, pay for it, and then leave the tool on the counter—you would take it with you and use it! Let’s use these tools in the real world, and if it works keep it!

Most people appreciate that I don’t just listen and reflect the whole time. I tend to give them radically different perspectives on their problem, and then very specific tools they can actually use. Then, we set things to make it more likely that you will remember to use them. And, because they were interesting, intriguing, and not superficial, people are often exciting to use them

Some might wonder if rapid change would be temporary. Be curious and consider that if certain high-impact changes are made, sometimes people get better quickly. Some don’t, but some do. If we do a deep dive into your specific maintaining conditions (the different circumstances that keep things going), it is possible that together we can shake things up and create something unexpected and transformational.

Do you believe you can grow? What you believe and tell yourself matters. Let’s get curious about what you are telling yourself.

If I use language that suggests that this will take a long time and a lot of sessions this may lead you to fulfill this prophecy. But what if I (Chris, that is) use rapid change language? Meaning language suggesting you can get better, and that does not assume how long it will take. And, language that suggests belief you can get better. Might you fulfill that prophecy? Taking that further, what if you began to change how you think, speak, and what you tell yourself? What if you fulfilled a different prophecy? One that was different than the one you had day 1 of seeing me?

zGiven that I have a mind, I am capable of experiencing hard thoughts, painful memories, and unpleasant feelings. I have also known hard things. That means I have to use the very skills and methods you will be learning. My hope is to be humble, and not above you as a doctor. While it is true that I am a doctor, I am to be with you as a fellow human here to help you navigate suffering